Is there really a Mr. Right?

George Uwaifo
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I hear most singles searching for Mr. Right, Mr. Perfect or Mr. Righteous. I am very much of the opinion that that should be the desire of every single lady out there. It would certainly be great especially in an ideal world. Are we in an ideal world? No. Are there ideal people in the categories of sages and deities? I doubt that exist either. So, why do you desire a perfect man? The answer beats me as well.


On a daily basis, I do believe that we strive to be better people irrespective of our genders. There are so many inherent flaws in man that sometimes, we doubt if our efforts are not futile, but we try all the same. I think, man is generally born with that tendency to be greedy in a relationship and the females, on the other hand, more controlled in handling same. This, in no way justifies the numerous infidelities associated with the men folk because more enlightenment and our religious upbringing has taught us that civility and singularity in relationship should be the ideal path to a successful relationship and marriage.


Now, the above mentioned context is also as it should be in an ideal world, but is not always the case. The earlier we come to terms with this sad and bitter reality, the better, especially for the women folk. Guys, this is really not a write up to excuse some of our crazy behaviors, but my intention is to throw some light on the fact that we are more often than not, prone to cheating. Nature shows this all the time. We see a male dog, a cock, a male goat, a lion etc flirting naturally with so many females and the reverse is usually not true with their female counterparts. Even without the sophisticated educations we humans have, the females in the animal kingdom still resist the urges to flirt around. That is just nature trying to teach us some thing. What separates us from them, though, is our high level of education that teaches  you that we live life better and to the fullest, when you stick with a single partner.


Even with all that education and religious background, of course I hate to really break the cold ice and state the obvious right here, you should still prepare for the worse behavior with your partner because he could still cheat on you. Yes, continue to trust him, show him love and be on the proactive side by doing all it takes to keep him satisfied and quite literally,  tamed. It wouldn't always be easy, but it is worth the try. Pray a lot if you are religious,  for the God to see you through the darkest hours of your relationship and strengthen your patience because your overall attitude would ultimately encourage him to or dissuade him from doing the unthinkable. A mindset like this, believe it or not, would make your relationship last a lot longer.


I believe there should be room for forgiveness with cases of infidelities. No man is perfect! Any woman that actually believes his man is perfect is living in a fantasy world. If you actually do, you should likewise believe that "Alice's wonder land exist". Unfortunately, just a simple staring at other women or making unguarded comments about other women in the company of friends are a lot more common than you think and they are signs of our vulnerability and weakness.  Even with all this dirt, I still believe that there are so many men out there who still strive to be the good boyfriends and the good husbands to their girlfriends and wives respectively, on a daily basis. So, before you start looking at us with suspicions, remember that we never said we were perfect, we are definitely trying to live up to your expectations. And guys, cheating looks very bad on your resume! Period.

 

 

COMMENTS (8)

@ndy2020 you have said it all.
Posted by tina83 on Aug 20 2014 @21:03
We all have our preset ideals of the perfect man, but realistcly they do not exist.Its simply a list of requirements of the person we would like to have that fits nicely and snug into our own personality and life. The true test of the right man comes in how he demonstrate value about what he has in you. Some lose sight and fall prey to cheating ways...this can get ugly, but it does not mean he is not the one for you. Some people fail to see the worth in their own green grass until they cross over in some grass filled with weeds and bugs. Love endures and will forgive to move forward. Pay close attention to what you mean to him in how he demonstrate his value in you.
Posted by eyeofbeauty on Jul 11 2013 @15:04
Cheating from either the male or the female folks is clearly wrong and I will reiterate that this write up is not an excuse for us, men, but only a reminder that no man is infallible. It can happen and the ladies should be prepared for it, however sad. that way, they'd be better prepared mentally and handle the situation a lot smarter and probably savage their relationship. It is unfortunate that there are serial offenders out there @NANCYMILLER. There is just so much none-sense a partner can take before throwing in the towel on that relationship.
Posted by george75 on Jul 10 2013 @07:51
I don't think there is any perfect man or woman, though some may argue to the contrary. Cheating in relationships has always been one of my favorite topics. Lol. I have tried to understand the whys and hows from both perspectives and I always come up short. Sometimes I'm not even sure if anybody does. Or maybe it's one of those things that we just can't put into words.

Forgiveness seems like the "divine" way to go, but what if you've forgiven the same offense countless times? How much can someone take? For the men who don't cheat, how do they achieve this magnificent ordeal (I've met people who have tried to convince me that every man cheats)?
Posted by nancymiller on Jul 09 2013 @21:49
My dear, there is no reason, i mean absolutely no reason to cheat in a relationship. If it is not working, quit!!!!!! Trust is like an egg, once broken, can never be mended. It is better to quit than cheat.
Posted by ndy2020 on Jul 04 2013 @16:53
My dear, there is no reason, i mean absolutely no reason to cheat in a relationship. If it is not working, quit!!!!!! Trust is like an egg, once broken, can never be mended. It is better to quit than cheat.
Posted by ndy2020 on Jul 04 2013 @16:52
My sister NDY2020. No vex abeg! You know, I am not trying to promote infidelity in relationships, I am just stating the obvious. Cheers.
Posted by george75 on Jul 03 2013 @22:57
,,,,,,,,"keep him satisfied and quite literally, tamed. It wouldn't always be easy, but it is worth the try. Pray a lot if you are religious, for the God to see you through the darkest hours of your relationship and strengthen....."

What a lame excuse! If its not good for her to cheat, its also a taboo for him to do so. Men who cheats are nothing but a bunch of unsecured weaklings.
Posted by ndy2020 on Jul 03 2013 @14:35
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