Why Most People Misunderstand Marriage

vnancy micheal
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Nobody goes into marriage with their eyes wide open. If we do we would never get married. Most people just fall in love and say I do, without ever really taking into consideration what marriage entails!

Marriage should be carefully thought out, but, sadly it is more about the ring, the wedding planning, the cake, bridal gown, flowers, tuxedos, food, and the church to be married in. Seldom do we ever consider anything beyond the wedding and the glorious honeymoon!!! When the dust settles, and the blindfolds fall off, and boy do they fall off, we begin to see all of the flaws! Flaws, flaws, and more flaws!!!

When the hail storms come, along with the thunder, lightening, and the tornados, then most people are ready to throw in the towel and run to the divorce lawyer. What happened to, "for better and for worse"? What happened to, "in sickness and in health"? What happened to, "till death do us part"? Without fail the storms are going to come! God is going to allow our love walk to be tested, He is going to let our true colors surface.

Malachi 3: 2-3 declares, "But who can endure the day of His coming? And who can stand when He appears? For He is like a refiner's fire and like launderers soap. He will sit as a refiner, and a purifier of silver; He will purify the sons of Levi,and purge them as gold and silver, That they may offer to the Lord an offering in righteousness."

God's test comes, so that He may prove us, and perfect us, but we are so hasty to jump out of one fire, and into another one. The grass is not by any means greener on the other side of the hill, although it may seem. People believe divorce is always the easy and best way out, but that is a lie of Satan!!! Divorce brings on another fire, far worse than staying in your marriage. Especially when children are a part of the marriage.

Fire never feels good, but it is to our benefit to stand, and see the salvation of the Lord. If we will stand and pray God will fight for our marriage. God will intervene on our behalf, because He knows we do not wrestle against flesh and blood but against principalities, and powers of darkness. God will work everything for our good, if we stand still and know He is God. He will prepare a resting place for us.  All we must do is walk by faith and believe Him. The battle is the Lord's, and victory belongs to Him.

God hates divorce, so in that sense, we know we will come out victorious. God loves us, He is all seeing and He is all knowing . His eye is upon us, and we are on the winning side. No matter how Satan tries to convince us we have lost, and that we should give up because it is over. It is not over, it is only a storm, a test. So hold on in the power of the Lord. Satan is the loser if we will but trust in God. He tells us to trust in the Lord with all of our heart!!!

Marriage is not what you can get, but what you can give to it. It is an investment. It is not taking, it is giving. Unity is more than a word, it is continually dying, and denying oneself, daily, hourly. It is recognizing your spouse as the important one moment by moment. God said, "love covers a multitude of sins." We must put their needs above our needs. First comes God, then our spouse. Prayer and fasting, and bible studying kills self. We will become selfless, and regard our spouse as God does.

Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you!!! Always, always put God first, and foremost!

Always, always love, for GOD IS LOVE!!!

My Prayer is that God will bless you and empower you to stand through the storms of marriage, that your marriage will blossom and flourish into a marriage made in heaven!!! God cannot and will not fail you!!! Your marriage is worth all the investment and effort, so hold onto it. Shun all thoughts of divorce. Remember why you fell in love and married your spouse. Rekindle your love, relight the fire, learn to enjoy one another. Marriage takes three, the Holy Spirit, The Husband, and the Wife!!! Be as one ,unified, standing together.

God bless you






Posted by porimoni on Jul 05 2017 @07:20
Interesting write-up. However, even though i believe in trusting God to see you through your storm; i also believe people rush into marriage sometimes, some people marry the wrong person for them and not everyone even your spouse has the same intentions and belief in God as you do. I don't like the whole Divorce issue and what it represents but it doesn't mean that i condemn it because it gives peace of mind in marriages where abuse; both emotional and physical exist for both spouse.
As Christians and maybe outsiders, it seems easier to judge and give advice but never easy where and when you are on the inside and are at the receiving end of both a bad marriage and all these sort of advice.
Posted by cindygurl on May 30 2013 @18:07
hhhmmm - very interesting
Posted by yewo1972 on Mar 06 2013 @14:46
I do not know any woman who would choose divorce light-heartedly. Those who are blessed with good marriages should uphold other women who suffered, survived and escaped with their lives intact (albeit)floating in the remnant shadow of their original self. I concur that God is omniscient and do rescue people from nasty marriages as He does rescue from other tribulations of life.We live in a fallen world with all manner of imperfections. There is no single answer for the world's problems (including broken marriages). According to Mark 12 verse 25, " for when they may rise out of the dead, they neither marry nor are they given in marriage, but are as messengers who are in the heavens". Love
Posted by nkemdi on Jan 18 2013 @21:15
I believe people misunderstood marriage in our society today compare to our parent's generation because back then marriage was an investment; the more you put into it the more you get out of it. Today,marriage is all about what you can get out of it rather than the sacrifice. We've lost faith in one another and the fear of God is missing in today's society.
Posted by babamighty on Jan 11 2013 @06:48
Marriage will never ever be understood. People just dong get it. They are stuck in this perfect fantasy marriage in their heads and forget that they are looking at it at the point of view of what their perfect partner will be. The fantasy marriage is that one which they had built around a partner that is from a different world and might also cime with a different dream world too. Nooke can understand marriage, we cam only live by its rules and still keep ourselves strong along the way. Marriage isn't for the feeble mind.
Posted by missfash on Jan 09 2013 @00:56
Thank you,we must be realistic about the relationship and not on bearing the titles, . .
Posted by binti on Jan 05 2013 @19:40
Very encouraging words Vnancy Michael, you're obviously not married and I would assume (forgive me if I'm wrong) have never been so that's why ordinarily, apart from encouraging married couples and identify the main problems and issues that could arise in marriage, you have gone further to use biblical passages to make them realise that 'They're not alone'. 'Marraige is good and the bed undefiled'. One can only encourage and urge couples on. It's an entirely different ball game once in it and as much as you say it's about giving,sacrifice etc....most people go into it for their own selfish reasons. That's life today. The heart of man is desperately wicked....who can know it?Adura ni agbarako
Posted by sola41 on Dec 29 2012 @14:44
Posted by sunnysmile on Dec 28 2012 @21:07
Nicely written! But marriage should not be a one-sided union. Both parties have to think of each other. But, when one in his selfish ways puts him, him and him first with no care as to the consequences on his wife and children, then divorce should be a viable option. It takes two to make a marriage work not one person's effort. This is from my personal experience and I have been the one trying to salvage what I thought we had for 17 years and I am tired and ready to move on.
Posted by mary on Dec 27 2012 @10:10

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