Why do we set rules for marriage? Is marriage not suppose to be for love and companionship? We human have rules for everything, there is a procedure and guidelines for everything we do, even in the matters of love, which is meant to be unconditional, why will a man want to marry a lady because she can wash and cook for him and give her conditions that if she cannot wash his clothes there won't be any marriage. That woman is not meant to carry and fetch for you. For God sake, she is your help mate. I have had men said I cannot marry a woman that won't wash for me, I have seen some profiles on this site, where some men said they won't cook because they believe is the duty of the woman. I have had the experience where a guy told me that I can't be in his house and he will be washing his boxers "his boxers" not mine. Don't get me wrong, I can wash for my man, but don't tell me it is my duty to wash for you, I know my role as a woman, don't spell it out for me, I am your wife not your maid, neither am I your mother but your companion. The same guy told me I should promise him if am going to be humble, abide by his rules. What! Are you proposing a marriage or a servant and master relationship? Of course no way, he should go to blazes with his marriage proposal. Men please set aside the rules and focus on what marriage is really all about.
Now let's talk about the women, how about ladies who have written down qualities they want in a man, on the list you have "a man who is rich, caring, and can give me everything I want", wait a second dear, what you are looking for is a fairy god mother and not a husband. You, what do you have to offer? What are you bringing into the marriage? It is not wrong to wish for all that, there is nothing wrong with wanting a rich man that can take care of you, but when you are making it the priority, then it becomes wrong, when you want a man that can offer you everything, what do you have to give to him? I know you will say I will give him children and cook for him, he can get all these from anywhere. Ladies you are meant to help your man, to be his rock, to give back, his help mate, not just to collect and collect, go out there and work, be useful and relevant and make him proud of your achievements, so that even when you collect he won't mind because you are relevant and useful. Stop setting rules and standard you cannot meet up with.
