Watch Out! You are in Phase One!

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I see it over and over again. You meet someone. You are attracted. You are excited about this new person. You finally have sex and feel even more excited about what this relationship holds. You tell your friends and co-workers you have just met someone fantastic and think this could be the one.  And while these feelings and thoughts are completely normal and expected, it is important for you to know that you are officially in phase one of a developing relationship.


Phase One is a wild exciting ride but it can deceive you. Learn the warning signs and date smart.


Phase one feels good. It's an exciting ride. It's the phase that drives people to have affairs; it causes breakups and creates professional serial daters. All this chaos, just so you can feel that excitement once more.  It's also the phase that can delude you into thinking you have just met your soul mate when in reality, you may have just met your next nightmare (or not).


In a newly developing relationship, it is easy to confuse sexual connection with true intimacy. Even though you may feel connected, like you've known this person for a thousand years, in reality, you don't know this person well at all. And while the release of dopamine and oxytocin can make you feel attached and bonded, it will behoove you to keep one eye on the exit door.


My intentions are not to be a naysayer, but instead, a wise counsel. I want you to enjoy the ride and enjoy getting to know your new love interest. I just don't want you to be so infatuated that you miss all the warning signs. I don't want you to wake up one day in a few years and say "What have I done?!"


Instead, I want you to enjoy getting to know someone with a healthy dose of skepticism and a healthy dose of optimism. You need both. You need to let your heart open and move forward—just do it in a steady pace. You need to be vulnerable and understand that no one is perfect—just proceed with both your left and right brain in gear. You need to enjoy the sexual intensity and passion all the while understanding that the intensity will most likely fade—and this doesn't mean there's anything wrong.


What's important is to be present to all that phase one has to offer while understanding that phase two is just around the corner. So keep your eye on the ball and keep your eye on the target.  You need both to score the goal.


By Julie Orlov

YourTango

 

 

COMMENTS (5)

the article is very interesting and helpful for most especially people seeking for relationship or already in it
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So lovely
Posted by 2adenuga1 on Jul 02 2014 @03:28
Rather interesting article. So true.
Posted by kermit duell on Mar 31 2014 @00:58
I love everything about this article.
Posted by topsy02 on Mar 30 2014 @23:26
Lovely article
Posted by samu on Mar 28 2014 @19:29
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