Temi's Not-So-First-Time (Part One)

Cynthia Atufu
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As Temi got off the phone with her boyfriend, she couldn't help feeling such joy in her heart.

She was totally in love with Dapo, he definitely was the best boyfriend ever; saying everything she always wanted to hear at the right time. "Who says I don't know what love is." Lying on her bed, she couldn't help daydreaming about her future as Mrs. Dapo Folarin. "Who says you can't be sure at 17?", she says and then rolls over her bed singing her favourite song by Mariah Carey (Always be my baby).

Temi and Dapo had planned to have sex for the first time the next day, being Sunday, she would leave church early feigning some stomach upset with her parents. She could already see her plans working out.

"Temi, come down now from that room of yours and help me make dinner before your dad gets back", her mum called out from the Kitchen. "Coming Mum".


Well the day had come finally and the pastor has just finished his sermon. It was time for praise and worship, everyone got up to sing and dance and Temi knew in her heart that this was it, the moment she had to leave. She felt guilty for what she was about to go do and especially since she knew she was in Church and had to lie. But she knew that she had to go because with the over-protectiveness of her parents, there would be no other time. She didn't even have any close enough female friends because her father wouldn't let her, "too much socializing with these girls may corrupt you. Boys are the worst, just be on your own," her dad would always say. Well, not quite.

"Mum, i don't feel too good. I spent the early hours of the morning in the toilet and i think I need to go again," said Temi." Oh my Angel," Angel is the name Temi's mother called her often as a form of endearment. "Yes, mum. I should be going home, i would just get a bike-man to get me there faster." "Okay," her mother said, "I will let your dad know, just be careful with these bike-men and don't bother coming back to Church. When you are done, have some Flagyll and try to rest." "Thanks Mum, really need to go now." And so Temi left on her way to see Dapo, with so much excitement. 


 

 

COMMENTS (10)

Well, I can't wait to read the part 2 of this story. I hope she and her friend have a good time and that they take good precautions.
Posted by babamighty on May 07 2013 @23:30
You are right and i totally understand. I was also raised in a Christian home and nothing justifies wrongdoing. Be it Monday or Wednesday or Sunday.
Posted by cindygurl on May 07 2013 @19:20
Perhaps, I am a little bit tough on Temi, however, I am looking at her situation based on the way I was raised and yes I had no friends just like her when I was at her age but that itself is not an excuse whatsoever. Parents are blameless...says who? When a child is bad the first comment people make is which house was he or she raised and the parents are the first to get most of the blame. Sorry, I am looking at this from all angles but mostly from a decent family structure in Nigeria. Also, at age 17 she has no idea what love is, trust me.
Posted by babamighty on May 07 2013 @19:03
The mistake is that most people just criticize kids but parenting is also important. As much as people want to say parents are blameless, sometimes they are guilty of bad parenting.
Temi is not doing or making the right choices but why is that? The importance of good parenting is something that is not stressed enough, its in this article but in a subtle way. Try and see the story from all angles.
Posted by cindygurl on May 07 2013 @18:45
BabaMighty, You are right and i am not saying you are wrong. There are always consequences when you do the wrong things in the sight of God but you are only judging as a reader, this may be hard but try and imagine yourself as a 17 years old girl who has no friends. Okay, no you can't.
But sometimes we have to understand the character's side, it doesn't mean we agree with their choices but its just to help us open our minds and connect better.
Temi has no friends except this boyfriend of hers, living this sheltered life has not done much good for building up her self esteem. To her, at least somebody wants her.
Again i do not justify but am trying to see if you can understand Temi's side.
Posted by cindygurl on May 07 2013 @18:40
Cindy, I have to disagree a little with you; Temi chose to sneak away when she was in the house of the Lord, it could have been the day that she received wonders/holy spirit from God but instead she walked away. She should have left school and meet with this guy and I won't care a bit but her living Church to have sex with this dude is out of the question for me. So, what will happen to her on the day of her wedding and she holds a bible and promise to be a good wife, do you think her foundation is solid...meaning as she been a christian all her life? No, she hasn't. My point is think about the consequences before doing anything, be good all the time.
Posted by babamighty on May 07 2013 @17:38
Thanks for your comment BabaMighty. Though, I don't think the day you choose to commit a sin matters to God, even if it was like on a Wednesday, at the end it is still wrong. There is no justification. But sure, being in church and having to lie was something Temi felt bad about. But also remember, she's acting out and trying to grow up very fast, so to her all that matters is getting out of there.
Posted by cindygurl on May 07 2013 @09:17
As a Christian it bothers me that she chose Sunday to have sex with her boyfriend. She is only 17 and she lied to her parents and no wonder her father restricted her from having friends over, he must have noticed that she followed the wrong crowd. So, my question to both Temi and Dapo is this: do they think that God would bless their sexual engagement? I doubt it very much!
Posted by babamighty on May 07 2013 @00:08
Thanks for the comment Bunwaa, you are very right. This is one thing some parents never seem to understand, glad you like it. Part 2 will be out soon.
Posted by cindygurl on May 05 2013 @12:54
over protectiveness of young ones ,creates a big distance between them and their families and loved ones,let them bring friends home for verification.dont make them live secret life and even do more of what u dont want them do with the wrong people.the guy respects them more knowing their parents are aware of the relationship,parents be wise.dont be over protective,after all they will still marry with time,
Posted by bunwaa on May 05 2013 @01:26
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