Understanding women is really one of the complicated things for men like me to comprehend. I grew up as a very shy kid. I never really could look women in the eye and talk to them even though I liked them and would have like to be friends with them. I was always the type who was academically sound and I put so much into studying and it paid off at the end of my secondary and tertiary educations. I have since grown out of my deep academic personality to do other things in life.
Back in the day, while in school, the most common observation was the way girls usually flock around guys who, by all standards, were mediocre in academics, morals and lacking basic values. Sure, these guys were hip, rich, smooth with words, seen as cool and engaged in all sorts of vices like partying, drinking and smoking. These were the ones who got all the beautiful girls. Their relationships usually played out like a soap opera with all the dramas- highs and lows as they get. The girls never seemed to mind, they were just content being with these bloated egos. Those of us who stuck to academics placed our hopes on being successful in our chosen disciplines and eventually getting the ladies or girls of our dreams. Some of us eventually do, but some still struggle many years after school.
The real problems in such flamboyant relationships, where the attraction is based on very superficial attributes is that they eventually wake up from the deep sleep, and find out the truth. The truth that their partners were not who they appeared to be with all the sweet talk and flashy looks. A person can only hide his or her true personality for so long. A little life challenge would bring that out in one fell swoop which might lead to physical or verbal assaults on the partner or close family members. I believe girls are usually too carried away by the materialistic aspect of the male partners especially in Nigeria.
Girls should be partly intuitive with guys at certain stages in their lives. If you really like a guy, do your best to let them know because it might be the only opportunity you have to actually have a shot at that one special person. Most good guys are shy and would hardly make advances for fear of rejection. Although that is definitely a bad approach to life because without risks, there can't be true success, but that is the fact of life. Put the ego aside and ask a man out if he did not have the courage to do it first, he would eventually come around and take it from there.
When we wait too long and let our egos and pettiness get the best of us, we find out that we had literarily missed the bus of our true love so many years ago and most times such situations cannot be reversed. So ladies, step up and give a little wink or smile in the direction of your guy and warm up to him. This might be your best ever life decision.
